Never assume kids. Don’t assume you know what people are going through. Don’t assume you always know the answer. Instead of assuming, just listen. You’ll be surprised by how much you don’t know.
Kids being different is okay. In fact it’s better than okay, it’s great. Growing up different made me who I am and I’m better for it. Being the same is boring. Embrace all the fun things that make you different and never let someone make you feel bad for not being the same as them. Especially when most of them are just boring milk toast who are too afraid to branch out of whatever bubble they’ve created for themselves. Let your freak flag fly kids.
Fear protects you, but fear also holds you back kids. Don’t be afraid to try new things because you might fail. The beauty in failure is that once you fail, you’re not afraid anymore about failing. So don’t be afraid to try that new sport, to take on that new class, or to talk to that person. The worst thing that can happen to you is that you fail, and that’s okay.
You get what you put in with kids. This stretches beyond adolescents/childhood. Kids always look to their parents for guidance/advice/empathy. Being a parent doesn’t stop when your kids turn 18, embrace the challenge and make your kids feel wanted even when you’re old and gray and we’re dead and gone.
When you have kids and hopefully I’m a grandparent, make sure you listen to your kids and don’t over parent. Let your kids fail. Failure is what breeds success in children, not micromanaging. The best thing that can happen is for your kid to learn from their failure.
What’s a bean counter? Basically it’s an accountant. It’s a fine profession. I’m using as a pejorative here really to describe a personality trait as opposed to a profession. Don’t keep score in all of your personal relationships, it just makes people resent you and makes them think everything is a transaction with you.
Understand what your heritage is and pay it the proper respect it deserves. Your family didn’t move across the world so you could forget who you are and where you’re from within one generation.
This may sound trivial, but make sure you behave at the gym. People who act like pompous, loud, arrogant, and all around jerks at the gym are showing their true colors. How someone behaves at the gym is who they are at their core.
It’s poisonous and literally bad for your brains. It does no good.